Gauging Consent


Before you have sex, ask yourself:

  • Have I expressed what I want?
  • Do I know what my partner wants? Am I certain that consent has been given?
  • Is my potential partner sober enough to decide whether or not to have sex?
  • Am I sober enough to know that I have correctly gauged consent?



Signs You Should Stop Immediately

  • You are too intoxicated to gauge or give consent.

  • Your partner is asleep or passed out.

  • You hope your partner will say nothing and go with the flow.

  • You intend to have sex by any means necessary.



Signs You Should Pause and Talk

  • You are not sure what the other person wants.

  • You feel like you are getting mixed signals.

  • You have not talked about what you want to do.

  • You assume that you will do the same thing as before.

  • Your partner stops or is not responsive.



Keep Communicating

    • Partners come to a mutual decision about how far to go.

    • Partners clearly express their comfort with the situation.

    • You feel comfortable and safe stopping at any time.

    • Partners are excited.