Dating and Domestic Violence

Dating violence is defined as controlling, abusive, and aggressive behavior in a romantic relationship. It occurs among people who are heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, and can include verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, or a combination of these. Relationships in which dating violence happens might have red flags such as jealousy, manipulation, name-calling, and sometimes physical or sexual abuse.

Other cues that might indicate an abusive relationship:

  • You feel afraid to break up with him/her.
  • You feel tied down, like you have to check in with your partner.
  • You feel afraid of making decision or bringing up certain subjects so your partner won't get made.
  • You tell yourself that if you just try harder and love your partner enough, everything will be just fine.
  • You find yourself crying a lot, being depressed or unhappy.
  • You find yourself worrying and obsessing about how to please your partner and keep him/her happy.
  • You find the physical or emotional abuse getting worse over time. 

Domestic Violence Statistics, U.S.

America has some alarming statistics concerning intimate partner domestic violence. Here are some of those facts. Every day, there are almost 20 people a minute that are physically abused by someone close to them.

That comes to about 10 million women and men a year that are victims of domestic violence.

  • As many as 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men face severe domestic violence from an intimate partner, resulting in injury, stress disorders, contracting sexually transmitted diseases and many other devastating results.
  • On an average day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls that are made to domestic violence hotlines across the nation.
  • Domestic violence concerning intimate partner accounts for 15% of all violent crimes.
  • When there’s the presence of a gun in the home, the risk of homicide is increased by over 500% where domestic violence is taking place.
  • 1 in 7 women and 1 in 18 men at some point in their lives, will feel threatened or fearful that they may be harmed or killed while being stalked by a past intimate partner.
  • As few as 34% of victims ever receive medical treatment for their injuries caused by their intimate partner.

Why Don’t Domestic Violence Victims Leave?

There is a huge list of reasons as to why a victim might not be willing to leave their abuser. For starters, some victims know and are aware of what their abuser is capable of, and any thought of escaping abuse is more like a death sentence.

  • They may have also been threatened by their abuser to never leave or something horrible may happen.
  • It’s this gripping fear that keeps a victim from escaping abuse and their domestic violence situation. They may be afraid that their abuser will further try and hurt or kill them, or their children may possibly be hurt or killed.
  • Victims worry about the wellbeing of their pets, the custody of their children, suffering financial ruin, and so on.