How to Know if You Are in A Healthy Relationship


You know that you are in a healthy relationship with someone because you feel good about yourself when you are around that person. Unhealthy relationships can make you feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.

You should feel safe around the other person and feel that you can trust him/her with your secrets. In a healthy relationship, you like to spend time with the other person, instead of feeling like you're pressured into spending time with them. Unhealthy relationships do not include trust and respect, which are very important parts of a family relationship, good friendship, or dating relationship. No one deserves to be in an unhealthy relationship.

 Do you...

  • Treat each other with respect?
  • Feel secure and comfortable?
  • Resolve conflicts satisfactorily and fairly?
  • Enjoy the time you spend together?
  • Support one another?
  • Take interest in one another's lives: health, family, work, etc.?
  • Have privacy in the relationship?
  • Trust each other?
  • Choose your sexual activities without influence of manipulaton, control, or force?
  • Communicate clearly and openly?
  • Have letters, phone calls, and e-mails that are your own?
  • Make healthy decisions about alcohol or other drugs?
  • Encourage other friendships?
  • Share your past and present sexual activity honestly.
  • Know that most people in your life are happy about the relationship?
  • Have more good times in the relationship than bad?