Suggested Reading List

I'll Miss You Too: An Off-to-College Guide for Parents and Students
Margo E. Woodacre Bane, Steffany Bane. 2006
Honest advice for parents and students for every step of the college journey. Transitioning from high school to college is one of the most complicated and exciting experiences that parents and children face together. Woodacre and Bane, a mother and daughter journey hand-in-hand through the parallel joys and challenges of the college adventure. Candid and practical, I'll Miss You Too offers a fresh approach to communication and connection through the college years.

Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money:
The Essential Parenting Guide to the College Years
Helen E. Johnson, Christine Schelhas-Miller. 2003
Parenting a college-bound student is a tricky business and combining your emotional and financial support with your child's newfound independence can seem nearly impossible. Topics are addressed frankly, and many parents may have trouble reading the sections concerning controversial subjects such as drug and alcohol use, birth control, homosexuality, and changes in religious and political beliefs. The emphasis here is not on changing your kid's mind about any of these things, but rather how parents can approach these sensitive topics while maintaining a positive and honest relationship. Most pages contain small text boxes highlighting what's on your mind and what's on your child's mind, as well as practical lists suggesting what to do and what to avoid, and these can be extremely helpful as a quick reference when faced with a sudden announcement from your student who's decided to change majors, stop living in the dorm, or study abroad. With a down-to-earth tone and clear insight into the minds of both parents and college students, this is an easy-to-read book that manages to handle difficult topics without preaching or downplaying important events.

Empty Nest...Full Heart: The Journey from Home to College
Andrea Van Steenhouse. 2002
Van Steenhouse offers a lighthearted, yet savvy look, at this turbulent time through her generous and compassionate world view, making it lively, humorous, and emotionally resonant. She has interviewed hundreds of families making this difficult passage and includes their stories while providing her trademark sensibility for handling each stage of the emancipation journey through the senior year in high school, moving through the summer after graduation, the final departure for college, and the freshman year.

In Addition to Tuition: The Parents' Survival Guide to Freshman Year of College
Marian Edelman Borden, Mary Anne Burlinson, Elsie R. Kearns. 1995
What parents may not know about sending their first child to college fills a large volume, and in this case, a detailed, step-by-step guide to both the undisputable facts and the judgment calls of the first college year. Knowing what to say to your child, how to say it, and when is as important as purchases, packing and moving in, billpaying, and such typical challenges as roommates, grades, social life, and avoiding risks. Although rather dry and matter-of-fact, Borden and colleagues' practical adviser provides neophyte parents of a college student with informed insights into college life and tips for making their and their child's transition a smooth one.

The Launching Years: Strategies for Parenting from Senior to College Life
Laura Kastner, Jennifer Fugett Wyatt. 2002
The Launching Years is a must-read for parents coping with the two-year transition from high school to college.  It is an insightful and lively tour of the bumpy road involving college applications, senioritis, freshman freedom, and parent/child separation anxiety. Launching a child into college can feel as if it's one of our last hands-on parenting acts, explains authors Laura Kastner and Jennifer Wyatt. The beauty of this book's approach is two-fold: First it opens a window onto the world of young people leaving home, exploring application procrastination, senioritis, college choice, ambivalence about independence, and freshman freak-outs. At the same time, it holds up a mirror to parents, to help them discover deeper truths about themselves with and without their children. For example, one section about college applications advises parents to consider the college decision as one involving their child's identity rather than their own and to make sure the college is a good match for the child.

Let the Journey Begin: A Parents Monthly Guide to the College Experience
Jacqueline Mackay, Wanda Ingram. 2001
This brief text includes innovative features and activities to help parents deal with the issues they and their first-year children face during the freshman year of college. Let the Journey Begin highlights the ongoing process of adjustment and is structured in eight sections to reflect the school year cycle. Features of the text include student and parent reflection, guided journal entries, checklists, problems and solutions, and explanations of college terms.

Letting Go: A Parents' Guide to Understanding the College Years, Fourth Edition
Karen Levin Coburn, Madge Lawrence Treeger. 2003
This bestselling guide, read by hundreds of thousands of parents over the past decade, is now better than ever, newly revised and completely updated. Based on real-life experience and recommended by colleges and universities around the country, Letting Go offers compassionate, practical, and up-to-the-minute information to help parents with the emotional and social changes of the college years.

The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College
Harlan Cohen. 2005
Students work hard to get into college, but once on campus, few know what to expect.
According to the latest research, over one-third of first year college students report getting homesick; more than 40 percent report being too afraid to approach their professors; and just over 60 percent report experiencing some sort of depression (the percentage increases by junior year). Combine these with the reality that about 1 in 4 students do not return to the same campus their sophomore year and it's clear that the first year isn't easy.

Cohen asked over 1,000 students from over 100 college campuses the question, "If you could go back in time and give freshman you a tip, what would you tell you, and why?"  The results are over 400 pages of stories, advice, facts, stats, and invaluable information. The Naked Roommate also includes questions and answers as published in my nationally syndicated Help Me, Harlan! advice column.

When Your Kid Goes to College: A Parent's Survival Guide
Carol Barkin. 2000
You've taught them how to do their laundry, brought them a year's supply of toothpaste and shampoo, and lectured them on the do's and dont's of life beyond your home. The time has come for your child to leave for college but are you prepared to say goodbye? Written by a mother who survived the perils of packing her own child off to school, When Your Kid Goes to College provides supportive, reassuring, and helpful tips for handling this inevitable but difficult separation. Saying goodbye isn't the end of the world; it's the beginning of an exciting new one for your child-and you!

You're On Your Own (But I'm Here if You Need Me):
Mentoring Your Child During the College Years

Marjorie Savage. 2003
Savage, who has worked with parents and students at the University of Minnesota for a decade (she's now the director of its parent-liaison program), addresses the sometimes tough issues facing parents and their college-age kids, as the latter seek independence (but still rely on counsel from Mom and Dad) and the former try to figure out just how involved they should be in Jr.'s undergraduate experience. In 12 chapters that span the summer before college, the culture shock of school (and the corresponding empty-nest shake-up for parents), the freshman 15, course loads, extracurricular activities, risky or defiant behaviors and life beyond the BA, Savage gives parents clear and seasoned advice-and offers tips for students as well. Illustrating her points through anecdotes, charts and bullet-pointed lists, she crafts a readable, if sometimes very commonsensical, guide to establishing the right level of parental involvement. For nervous parents, this should be a reassuring and helpful book.